If it was not enough.......

Well folks when it rains it pours. I did not mention this in my previous post because they were about my friend and her very very very sad loss. In addition to dealing with this tremdous grief we all felt. The ever present thorn in my side served me with divorce papers. Should have know when he was playing twenty questions about money and the fact he refinanced the house and pocketed a nice little sum of money.

An attempt to serve me came last Monday while I was at the hospital with my friend. So I called the guy and said, Hey I am not trying to hide from you or anything but I have something more important going on. So call me in the morning and let's get this over with as I know what they are. Unless of course you are going to tell me someone else is looking for me. The guy responded, surprised I knew what they were. I told the process server oh yes, the thorn was considerate enough to send me an email regarding the papers. He of course had to laugh at that one.

So bright and early the process server and I met. He told me that I was spoiling him by waiting outside for him. My reply that this was my childrens home and they were sleeping and I did not want them woke up from his early call. Very nice gentleman we ended up speaking for several minutes and he said he was sorry to hear about my friend and that to make sure I hire a very good attorney.

If I could count how many times I have heard that. Sad truth of that matter is they cost too much money. God knows I don't have a money tree growing in my backyard unless I missed it. Truth be known this is not the first time in the six or seven years we have been separated that we have filed. That is another blog for another day. I do not have my doubts it will be finished this time. The bigger question at what cost. The thorn does not like to lose and even worse be told what to do.

I know this if nothing else about him. I have endured many years of manipulation by this man and given a great deal from possessions to my own soul being chisled away little by little. It is only in these last years of being separated that I have managed to regain some sense of myself. But I will be the first to admit that I am not so far removed from his manipulation.

There is a pattern that I have noticed in things that happen where he is concerned. Anytime that I appear to be having a life of my own he acts out in some form and this must be the latest of acting out. The old I don't want you but I don't want you to be with anyone else or happy on any level. I had a friend tell me this is war and kill or be killed as he will not have mercy on you. So get in that mind set. Time will tell if I am equipped mentally and physically ready for this.