ENOUGH SAID!!!!!!!
Monday, April 28, 2008
Thursday, April 24, 2008
For All the Women In the World......
A friend of mine sent this to me and I wanted to share will all. Enjoy as I did.
"WHY WOMEN CRY"A Little boy asked his mother, 'Why are you crying?' 'Because I'm a Woman,' she told him. 'I don't understand,' he said. His Mom Just hugged him and said, 'And you never will.'
Later the Little boy asked his father, 'Why does mother seem to cry for no Reason?' 'All women cry for no reason,' was all his dad Could say.
The little boy grew up And became a man, still wondering why women cry. Finally He put in a call to God. When God got on the phone, he asked, 'God, Why do women cry so easily?'
God said: 'When I made The woman she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong Enough to carry the weight of the world, Yet gentle enough To give comfort I gave her an inner strength to endure Childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her Children.
I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep Going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family Through sickness and fatigue with out complaining.. I gave Her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all Circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly.
I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults And fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. I gave Her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but Sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him Unfalteringly.
And finally, I gave her a tear to shed. This Is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed.' 'You see My son,' said God, 'the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she Wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that Is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides.
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
How A Deadbeat Dad Gets Custody!!!!!!!!!!!!
First off the he lays his seed in some unsuspecting female that has no idea he has no intention of taking any kind of responsibility.
Then so that he does not have to pay any kind of child support he lays up with some stupid female that pays all the bills because he claims to be disabled. He is now in arrears to the tune of $30,000.00 The state has suspended his license. But that does not matter he drives anyway. Has a car. Tell me how it is licensed and insured if he doesn't even have a driver's license? I am still trying to figure that one out.
Next he is only present enough in the child's life that he has no idea about her educational needs, emotional needs and security. But calls all her care providers and tells them that he was advised to do so by his attorney. Not that I am a concerned parent, but that my attorney told me too.
Speaking of the attorney, thanks to all the wonderful tax payers he has a pro bono pit bull. Not only can she represent him juvenile court but district court as well. According to this tax paid pit bull everyone but this male parent is causing this child undo stress. So, I take that she has not heard my niece every time she has been dragged in to court saying that she does not want to live with her male parent. I use the term loosely as he has not earned the right to be called father.
Why should it be any different if it was a custody battle going on in a divorce a child of fourteen would be allowed to decide where they want to live. Mind you this child has lived with me more that either of her parents. I know you are wondering why she is not with my sister well that is a whole other set of issues.
The man has finally been able to sway the powers that be to rule that he is disabled. So he get a check for $2,500.00 a month but, yet on her birthday last month he did have any money to buy her a birthday present. Told her she would have gifts by the end of the month, her birthday was March 9Th. Not to mention the dependant portion my niece is entitled too. Now he will get that too. That should be money being put away for her college education.
The icing on the cake on this whole debacle is that I as a foster parent according to the law have a right to be heard during juvenile proceedings. The last court hearing before this one that gave her male parent placement the judge gave me such a form to fill out. The irony even though I sent the form to the judges office it was turned over to the county attorney as evidence. When it was presented the male parents objected as hearsay. Therefore in my opinion the pit bull violated my right to be heard. Go figure..pro bono bitch.
Amazingly enough I have received a letter in the mail today form the supreme court regarding my right as a foster parent to be heard. I will be anxious to hear what they have to tell me as I am sure that I overwhelmed the woman answering the phone at that office today. He may have won the battle but the war will continue as that child will know that I have and will continue to do everything within my power to see to her welfare not matter where she it.
So there you go once again the lovely foster care system has proven themselves and truly not knowing what is in the best interest of the child. As long as we can clear it off our books and be done with it. Confidentiality clauses be damned.
Then so that he does not have to pay any kind of child support he lays up with some stupid female that pays all the bills because he claims to be disabled. He is now in arrears to the tune of $30,000.00 The state has suspended his license. But that does not matter he drives anyway. Has a car. Tell me how it is licensed and insured if he doesn't even have a driver's license? I am still trying to figure that one out.
Next he is only present enough in the child's life that he has no idea about her educational needs, emotional needs and security. But calls all her care providers and tells them that he was advised to do so by his attorney. Not that I am a concerned parent, but that my attorney told me too.
Speaking of the attorney, thanks to all the wonderful tax payers he has a pro bono pit bull. Not only can she represent him juvenile court but district court as well. According to this tax paid pit bull everyone but this male parent is causing this child undo stress. So, I take that she has not heard my niece every time she has been dragged in to court saying that she does not want to live with her male parent. I use the term loosely as he has not earned the right to be called father.
Why should it be any different if it was a custody battle going on in a divorce a child of fourteen would be allowed to decide where they want to live. Mind you this child has lived with me more that either of her parents. I know you are wondering why she is not with my sister well that is a whole other set of issues.
The man has finally been able to sway the powers that be to rule that he is disabled. So he get a check for $2,500.00 a month but, yet on her birthday last month he did have any money to buy her a birthday present. Told her she would have gifts by the end of the month, her birthday was March 9Th. Not to mention the dependant portion my niece is entitled too. Now he will get that too. That should be money being put away for her college education.
The icing on the cake on this whole debacle is that I as a foster parent according to the law have a right to be heard during juvenile proceedings. The last court hearing before this one that gave her male parent placement the judge gave me such a form to fill out. The irony even though I sent the form to the judges office it was turned over to the county attorney as evidence. When it was presented the male parents objected as hearsay. Therefore in my opinion the pit bull violated my right to be heard. Go figure..pro bono bitch.
Amazingly enough I have received a letter in the mail today form the supreme court regarding my right as a foster parent to be heard. I will be anxious to hear what they have to tell me as I am sure that I overwhelmed the woman answering the phone at that office today. He may have won the battle but the war will continue as that child will know that I have and will continue to do everything within my power to see to her welfare not matter where she it.
So there you go once again the lovely foster care system has proven themselves and truly not knowing what is in the best interest of the child. As long as we can clear it off our books and be done with it. Confidentiality clauses be damned.
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Books Be Damned......
The books were meant to be a distraction from stress. They have taken on a life of their own. I have read over twenty books in the last four weeks. I am sure it is the genre of the books being read. I have a restless growing within my soul. It is driving me crazy.
Most of the books are period pieces that have about four to six in the series. Settings are in the time of knights, mystics and to my favorite being set in the settling of the west. Of course all the men in the books are Gods. The writers leave nothing to the imagination of these men. Therein lies my restlessness.
I have come to believe that I am definitely an alfa male type girl. They just reek of manliness. So until Mr. Alfa crosses my path in real life I will continue to devour him in my dreams. Purely driven from my reading of course. Author, Lora Leigh really leaves little to the imagine in the men she conjures up in her books. She has a series about Navy Seals that I recommend highly for you reading pleasure.
Most of the books are period pieces that have about four to six in the series. Settings are in the time of knights, mystics and to my favorite being set in the settling of the west. Of course all the men in the books are Gods. The writers leave nothing to the imagination of these men. Therein lies my restlessness.
I have come to believe that I am definitely an alfa male type girl. They just reek of manliness. So until Mr. Alfa crosses my path in real life I will continue to devour him in my dreams. Purely driven from my reading of course. Author, Lora Leigh really leaves little to the imagine in the men she conjures up in her books. She has a series about Navy Seals that I recommend highly for you reading pleasure.
Sunday, April 13, 2008
The Weight of Emotions........
In the last three weeks I have read sixteen books. I never knew such a drive or need for escape as I have of recents days. The problem with the escapism that I have choosen has done nothing more than drive other emotions to the surface.
So much is going on in my life right now that the need for this escapism is at an all time high. To be in a place of none feeling. The battle wages on to be single. I am at a loss as to why it is taking so long. Truly would appear to be a case of someone not wanting me but not wanting me free to be with someone else.
The fight for my niece and nephews wages on as well. The end is near for a conclusion for my niece. Though I feel the outcome will not be good. Tomorrow we are back in court again as we have been several times in the last months. The child is fourteen why even though she is in the foster care system do they not hear she does not want to be living a father who has not had anytime for her thus far in her life? It is beyond my realm of comprehension.
I have come to the loth the foster care system. It is a prison for the innocent. If your children are taking away justly then you have no rights and it should be about what is best for the children. Was it my intention my sister not have her children back when this whole thing started? No, but has she stepped up and become the mother they need her to be.
The drive of great loss and frustration continues with the estate sell of my in-laws that have passed not so long ago. Their belongings sold off as if they were nothing of value to no one. Soon their house will be gone and nothing but a memory will be left in its place. How long will it be before it fades? I dreamt of my father in law the night before the start of the sell. He came to me very clearly. Stop to visit on the way of completing his list of things he needed to do. His son had helped with his list has he has been forgetful of late. Overall seemed very at peace.
Lack of sleep makes ones emotions run high and on the very surface of your skin. Being ultra sensitive to you surroundings weeping without control. There should be rest soon because this cannot go forever. Until then I will continue to search for peace if only for breif periods of time.
So much is going on in my life right now that the need for this escapism is at an all time high. To be in a place of none feeling. The battle wages on to be single. I am at a loss as to why it is taking so long. Truly would appear to be a case of someone not wanting me but not wanting me free to be with someone else.
The fight for my niece and nephews wages on as well. The end is near for a conclusion for my niece. Though I feel the outcome will not be good. Tomorrow we are back in court again as we have been several times in the last months. The child is fourteen why even though she is in the foster care system do they not hear she does not want to be living a father who has not had anytime for her thus far in her life? It is beyond my realm of comprehension.
I have come to the loth the foster care system. It is a prison for the innocent. If your children are taking away justly then you have no rights and it should be about what is best for the children. Was it my intention my sister not have her children back when this whole thing started? No, but has she stepped up and become the mother they need her to be.
The drive of great loss and frustration continues with the estate sell of my in-laws that have passed not so long ago. Their belongings sold off as if they were nothing of value to no one. Soon their house will be gone and nothing but a memory will be left in its place. How long will it be before it fades? I dreamt of my father in law the night before the start of the sell. He came to me very clearly. Stop to visit on the way of completing his list of things he needed to do. His son had helped with his list has he has been forgetful of late. Overall seemed very at peace.
Lack of sleep makes ones emotions run high and on the very surface of your skin. Being ultra sensitive to you surroundings weeping without control. There should be rest soon because this cannot go forever. Until then I will continue to search for peace if only for breif periods of time.
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