Shakey at Best......

Well folks we had our court session today. All I can say is UNBELIEVABLE! Literally mouth hanging open gaping catching flies UNBELIEVABLE! First off judge, can I point out if the man is not fighting my niece being placed back with me there is a problem here? Good God, no you would never consider that. It is all the rest of us that are broken! Second of all, the county attorney could only state over and over that there is not enough evidence to press charges.

I heard from niece's Casa (child advocate), therapist and caseworker. At the point that the judge heard Dad (a term I use very loosely mind you) was not going to fight placement he began issuing court orders to assist in reunification of father and daughter. My niece has to have family therapy with her father with a specific independent therapist, supervised visitation in his home and that he could petition the court at any time to have my niece moved back into his home. How do I tell her this. The child is fourteen and has very seriously told me. Auntie I would rather die than go back into his home and if that happens please make sure my Mom gets half of my stuff. What on God's green earth am I suppose to with that.

I have also been told by parties that are supporting the continued removal of my niece from her father's home that he and his attorney can cry fowl and say that I am keeping reunification with the Dad from happening and she could be removed to another foster home to see if that would sway my niece's feelings toward her father. Too which I replied because by now I am unable to control the enormous amount of emotion, "You are fucking kidding me right!"

I mind my p & q 's with a vengeance, what I say in front of the children. I have submitted to numerous invasions in my home so they can make sure I provide a safe environment. My children over the age of 16 have had to have police background checks and finger printing to make sure they are not juvenile delinquents. Just a laundry list of things I have had to do even though I have raised three children already and have never once in my life had to deal with CPS on any level. Oh and not to mention that I do daycare with children who are currently in the foster care system. I'm the threat?????????????? Twilight zone must be coming back to TV because I am living it.

Our judge doesn't approve of children making choices for themselves. Wake up these children have been making their own decisions since they dropped out of my sister's womb. The girl is fourteen years old. Like I have said on any number of occasions if this was a divorce she would have a say in where she is going to be living.

She will be with me until the next case review in September and then there is a custody hearing in October. Not looking good at all for us I must say. I have come to the conclusion I would get quicker results kicking my cat and be brought up on animal cruelty charges than someone neglecting and emotional abusing a child. Maybe my case needs to be tried in the court of public opinion?

The Dark Clouds Have Parted.......

Well fellow bloggers it has finally happened. Last Thursday on July 9th, my niece was removed from her father's home for neglect. It has been a hectic couple of months. She is very very happy to back with us.

So everyone keep us in your prayers that it sticks this time and she doesn't have to live him ever again. Everything is in the investigative stages. The law being the law looks at rights and it is unfortunate that some of the things that have happened to her are not concrete enough. Currently it looks like they may get him on the fact that even though she is fourteen there is an inordinate amount of time she is being left alone. My niece has AD/HD and her medication is a controlled substance. So why on God's green earth would anyone make a child responsible to take her meds.

I did an audit of her meds and according to my calculations she missed her afternoon meds sixteen times since the prescription has been filled. That in addition to the time she is left alone with only a tv for entertainment. What kind of stimulation is that for a child even without any learning disability?

So needless to say we are hoping at the very least we can get emotional abuse if not neglect. We hope to get lucky and get both. I cannot imagine what it has been like for her to listen to the countless racial slurs against her mothers family. To constantly be told no one cares about her especially her therapist and caseworker. That she is just a job to them. To be constantly threatened with physical violence when she doesn't do things to their liking.

She has had to endure being told she smells like nasty white people. Resulting in her having to shower every Sunday when she returned home from visit from my house. My niece is bi racial. They did not like the way she made the bed so she had to sleep in a pallet on the floor. He did not buy her any summer clothes but had a fit when her mother and I did. He went as far as to say we were interfering. What because we thought that jeans and long sleeve shirts were a little much for summer. It is only in the nineties.

Our break came on Thursday July the third when he left her alone since eleven that morning. We picked her up for visit on Friday at nine thirty and he was still not home. Later we would find out that he did not come home till the early hours of Saturday morning. A series of events that night proved to be his undoing. I called the caseworker and the therapist. The therapist in turn called for a well check. But since the girlfriend was due home they left her.

Over the weekend the police called to verify that the girlfriend lived there in turn my niece suffered the consequence of that action. I would like to say good job fellas! Anyway, punishment commenced on Monday morning for her at five in the morning. She was made to get up and clean all the baseboards and clean all the windows. Then at seven thirty the locked her out of the apartment and was told to stay standing in the hallway. I am not even sure how long they left her out there. What kinda of parent would think this is remotely okay. All because the police had come to check on her.

Tuesday he refused for her therapist to meet in private with her as sessions are held in the home. He frightened the therapist so bad she called the caseworker and now refused to return to his house for therapy with my niece. Plus the therapist and I received a tongue lashing from him for interfering. I hung up on. Notified the caseworker of what was going on. The caseworker then called the home and received no answer so she went to check on my niece in person.

Guess what she was there alone again. She told the caseworker what happened and what had been going on since he found out about the well check aka police showing up at his house. So there is the basics without listing all the totally off the wall things that have been going on that are considered acceptable parenting. So now the caseworker, therapist and myself are the wicked bitches that have been sexual servicing each and the judge to get my niece out of his home.

I am sorry but no one can pull the trigger of a loaded gun unless given the ammo. So who shot off their own foot here?