Concrete Angel
(Through the wind and the rain she stands hard as stone. In a world she can't rise above. But her dreams give her wings and she flys to a place where she's loved.)
I have seriously woke up in an alternative universe. The people are all the same. But the series of events cannot possible be real. The lovely state I live in likes to police itself a lot. So on goes the never ending saga why some people are not fit to be parents.
Today a meeting was held by a group called 1184. My understanding of this forum is to help move cases that are stuck in proverbial black hole called the foster care system. There are three biological parents involved in this case. Two without a doubt no I can't even say that but for all intensive purposed with have their right terminated for one reason or another. The third parent my niece's father who is not better or capable of being a parent is the thorn.
The judge in his almighty wisdom granted placement of my niece with this man April 28, 2008 and she was removed and placed back with me on July 10, 2008. WOW!!!!! She was removed to my understanding for neglect. He was placed on the according to CPS the central registry. Okay sounds good so far. This is where it gets sketchy and very very confusing.
So this is where we file charges and my niece can move on and have a childhood and stability and have something close to normal. WRONG!!!!!!!! No charges are filed because there is not enough physical evidence. He doesn't beat her and now the county attorney for this case is droning on and on about he is a father who has stepped up and the system has failed him blah blah blah. At this point it is all I can do not to jump across the table and slap him, vomit or both.
I have never heard such dribble in my life. Let's talk about the fact the man has not taken interest in her for the last 13yrs of her life. He only intervened in this last year because, WHY, he is on disability and in order to get the dependant share she has to be living with him. Not to mention that he is $30,000.00 behind in child support. Never attended any educational or doctors appointments. Daddy dearest is clueless and rejects the fact that his child could have ADHD/ODD. He plays the victim role very very well. Everybody hates me everybody is working against me.
The straw that broke this camels back today was when the county attorney stated that of course everyone is going to say Auntie is the best placement because she lives in an affluent neighborhood and daddy dearest lives in the poor section of town. Talk about prejudice. Yes, I live in a nicer part of town. No I do not live in the more expensive houses or drive an expensive vehicle and my income in modest by any standard. I work three jobs. I am a single mother raising my own three children and have stepped forward to raise my sister's children if they are not reunited with their mother.
So now I wear the scarlet letter A=Affluent, because I chose to live in this part of town so my children could have the best available public school education that my tax dollars pay for. But I have can't have issue with daddy dearest having a court appointed pro bono attorney, living on disability due to a back injury, living with a girl friend who to my knowledge paid all the bills and still does. Drives without a license and no one does anything about it. Just because my sister spread her legs for him one night and he is now daddy of the year. Give me a break.
Legislation needs to change to state that if you attach yourself to any case where the child is a ward of that state that all parties offending or non offending should have to participate in the same steps to received custody of their children. I am talking parenting classes, drug testing, family therapy, background checks, parenting plans and participation in the child's life since it is suppose to be about the them after all.
So welcome to the worst reality show today "FOSTER CARE" coming to a venue near you soon.
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